"But in your hearts set apart Christ as Lord. Always be prepared to give an answer to everyone who asks you to give the reason for the hope that you have. But do this with gentleness and respect, keeping a clear conscience, so that those who speak maliciously against your good behavior in Christ may be ashamed of their slander." ~ 1 Peter 3:15-16
As the months passed, I get more insights by observing the families around me and at the same time deepen my conviction that modern church way of organizing itself isn't all that wonderful, and biblical anyway. The key is that the church should be relational-focus and not efficiency-focus. When was the time when we shifted away from building our families to running programs after programs, at the expenses of our family members and all in the glorious name of serving God? Doesn't that sounds like giving away the money for our parents as tithes, if tithes will to be biblical as well but that's another issue? Is not family, including extended families, our primary ministry? Have we built our church on the wrong foundation? So what if we did a lot of good things out there, but have a mess in our own houses?

The problem lies in the current church model where the pastor is elevated to a higher position. It can said that the reformation merely replaced the priests with pastors. Therefore it is no surprise to hear aunties and uncles remarking that temples got monks, while churches got pastors. Yet, are all pastors power hungry? Some perhaps, but not all. It is not all their fault that we have the modern day church the way it is now. The Church is to be blamed, for we are still behaving like Israelites when they cried for a king. We want a leader at our convenience and when he turn against us, we blame him. But more often than not, we kill our dear brother aka pastor and his family by assigning immeasurable tasks to him. Think of the time he could have spent with his family, his children when he is freed from the organization. Why is it that there are so many burnt out pastors all over the world? It it time to take ownership of the Church's ministries in our own hand than outsourced it to the "anointed ones", if there are ever such distinction.

Have you ever wonder why the Latin word "pastor" is found in the English bible? And the only time it appears is among the different gifts or functions? Does a long details or descriptions of elders and deacons but not a single one on being a pastor shine some lights on you? It is time that the Church wake up, and already some of them are waking up from their sleep, and begin doing our pastors and their families a favor owed too long.