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"But in your hearts set apart Christ as Lord. Always be prepared to give an answer to everyone who asks you to give the reason for the hope that you have. But do this with gentleness and respect, keeping a clear conscience, so that those who speak maliciously against your good behavior in Christ may be ashamed of their slander." ~ 1 Peter 3:15-16
One may ask, is this relationship too fast too furious? =P I thought about it for a while and here is my response.

Whenever people ask if this is too fast, the doubt they have in mind is whether this relationship is the correct one? For if it is the wrong relationship to build, then indeed we are just wasting our time, effort and might in fact cause unnecessary hurts to one another. Yet, I feel that it is this attitude that kills most relationship. In modern days, people have been consumerised and they even bring over this ideology to marriage. It seems to me that people need to get together and try it out before making that important decision. It's the Trial and Error Attitude (TEA). Perhaps now, you may see the reason why divorce rate is so high these days. When two persons doesn't get together, they break off, and still have the cheek to claim that it was an Error.

Love is a choice, a commitment. This is what couples need to hear urgently nowadays, especially when temptations are all around us. It is perfectly fine to evaluate someone's character and determine if we are a good match, after all, will chicken marry an eagle? But when criteria overtook love, marriage becomes a mere contract over two pieces of flesh. It is this pitfall that we need to avoid. Love is a choice, to completely accept the other person for who he/she is, without any complaints or regrets on our parts. Someone once said, "We should not marry the person whom we think we can live with; but marry the person whom we know we can't live without." If you have that someone whom you can't live without, may I urge you to, all the more, pray to God for wisdom and discernment. And at any rate, I share your joy in pouring out your life and sharing it with someone whom you love deeply.

My piece of advice, only date someone who is as serious as you are about dating being the platform to marriage. May God bless you richly in His Son Jesus Christ. Amen.

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